Guidelines & Code of Conduct

I started XaviersList to create a fun and safe communal space where legal and consensual adults can connect with each other and freely explore their sexuality. My aim is to make this as large and diverse of community as has ever been online. I have dreamt of an online oasis where everyone is invited to join and are not discriminated against based on by color, creed, sexual preference, size, disability or any other arbitrary prejudice.

Needless to say, I wouldn’t allow this journey to come at the safety or price of anyone else. Its depressing, but a few bad apples can end the party for the rest of us. Because of that we must all abide by certain rules and guidelines to keep this site legally functional. This is not like some other version of other personals sites, so please don’t assume the same rules apply here because they don’t.

First and foremost, we encourage you to express exactly who you are. That being said, some fantasies/content can turn illegal and/or libelous if they are put forth in writing. Because of that, I will moderate content personally for things that I believe may be construed as / allude to doing something illegal. Do not test me.

Please take a few minutes to review our FULL TERMS. You agree to FULLY ABIDE by them before you post or use this site. These are general guidelines for posting and commenting in all sections, violating any of them will get you permanently banned from the site: 


THERE IS 0% TOLERANCE on content relating to or alluding to minors, children and young adults. We will report serious violations to the authorities. If you see or suspect this violation, please REPORT IT to us immediately.

Fantasy or ‘role-playing’ in regards to minors is also NOT ALLOWED. This includes any daddy/daughter, mother/son fantasies or any other type of role playing involving minors. It is impossible for me or law enforcement to determine intent for this type of post.


There is a STRICT policy of no advertisement and no transactions. This does not just mean DIRECTLY asking for money in your ad. Any ‘alluding to’, using code words, attempting to sell later, or trying to trick the system will get you banned quickly from this site. This is not the place for sex work, escorting, or getting paid for your personal time.


Content relating to ‘massages’ or ‘therapeutic services’ or any service is strictly not allowed. It is impossible to determine intent from these ads.


Any content relating to incest (including roleplaying it) is strictly not allowed.


Content that is violent, forceful, abusive, hurtful, harassing or offensive to anyone else, including yourself is not allowed. I understand that some of you are into extreme kinks – I understand. However, XaviersList is not a place specifically dedicated to hardcore kinks, so please be very mindful of that when submitting a post.


This is the most problematic content because its very difficult to determine safe intent. This is not a dedicated BDSM community, so it will be read from the stand point of someone who’s not into kink. This is how I will be will be moderating and evaluating your content. Feel free to express that you’re into kink. However, violent or forceful content will not be allowed. For example, its ok to say “I’m into BSDM, and I’m an experienced DOM.”. Its NOT OK to express “I’m into BSDM, and I’m looking for a slave to degrade”. We can’t determine intent from that so your content will be rejected. Same applies if you write that you want to be abused or degraded. That will not be allowed. Repeated violations will get you banned from the service. If you think you are being restricted in expressing yourself or your desires, its likely we are not the right community for you. Same applies to extreme fetishes.


I don’t allow the sharing, distribution, or selling of illegal drugs on our site. This includes poppers.


Beastiality, sex with animals, or cruelty to animals is STRICTLY not allowed. I will report such violations.


XaviersList is the only personal classifieds site that allows for nude photo submission in ads.

Since I am the only one accepting your pics please do not abuse the system. Obviously don’t submit a picture of someone else that is not you. (Posting someone against their will or who is underage will get you banned and reported.) Don’t flood your ad with memes that don’t relate to your post. I will accept 1 non personal image if it has to do with the content of your ad. Remember I read everything and will not hesitate to decline your submission if I see you are trying to bend my rules. I have no mercy.


DO NOT POST PERSONAL CONTACT INFORMATION such as email addresses, actual home addresses, other social media profiles, and phone numbers in your ad. I will decline your submission.


I don’t allow multiple accounts for one user. I also discourage over-posting (more than 2-3 posts a day). Repeated violations of over posting / spamming will get your account terminated.


XaviersList is meant to be for local postings. Posting in areas not local to you will likely get your ad rejected. Posting in multiple cities at once will likely get you banned from the service.

Finally, please remember that you are ultimately dealing with strangers on the internet. Please be overly cautious and extremely safe. Also be very wary of any one asking for money from you. There are an endless amount of thieves running all kinds of complex scams all over the internet. Do not ever share your financial information with anyone or provide any form of payment to anyone online. Please be smart and careful. Think critically.

I are working hard to stop spammers from coming in. Unlike other websites, XaviersList is 100% human moderated by me.

Remember to have fun and be safe! Good luck,